Anyone who seeks help for a drinking problem can consider it one of the best decisions that they will ever make. There are various types of treatments available, but they all have the same goal, to help the alcoholic get better. I say “help”, because most of the hard work is done by the alcoholic. Once the alcoholic starts the process of recovery, it is a journey that requires dedication and determination.

I mentioned in Part 2 about people looking for reasons, causes and justifications when questioning their drinking habits, it is when someone starts recovering from alcohol misuse that these points, and others, are of great importance.

In recovery, alcoholics learn about themselves and discover why their life took them in the direction it did. As I previously mentioned, nobody chooses to be an alcoholic.

They learn the triggers that lead them to desire alcohol. There are a variety of triggers, but common ones are depression, anger and even happiness. Someone with an alcohol dependency may think they are a social drinker, but they are actually drinking for all the wrong reasons.

It is very important to know the particular triggers that an individual is vulnerable to, because it is necessary to address the cause of these triggers. Getting to the root causes of why a particular person becomes an alcoholic can be very difficult, as it often stems from childhood neglect, trauma or abuse.

Sometimes the adult may be able to recall childhood events, when encouraged to do so, but sometimes there may have been events that occurred when they were too young to be able to remember. Sometimes when children are older and have the ability to remember, they have blanked out, or buried those memories very deep, because it is too painful to allow them to come to the surface.

 

Alcohol abstinence is not just about stopping drinking, it is a journey of self-discovery and about learning coping mechanisms and strategies. It is the start of a new life.

Although I have various fonts at my disposal, I often want to use a different type for a specific application. I usually try out different fonts when I want create a specific effect on a graphical project.

When creating e-cards, the choice of font makes all the difference and compliments the image. Christmas e-cards are good example, using a Christmas type font can really enhance your card. Sending Birthday Wishes with a customised font is more impressive.

Nowadays my main source for downloading new fonts is Free Fonts, where there is a good variety that suit my needs.

Downloading and installing is very straightforward: Select a font – Download From OneDrive – Download – Save As (it is a good idea to create a Fonts folder) – Extract from zip file – Install.

 

 

 

It can take many years before an alcoholic reaches the point where they decide that they need to stop drinking. Some may never reach that point, partly because they have not “reached the bottom of the barrel”, and they will need to suffer a lot more before they accept that their life is too intolerable to continue on the same path. Some will never stop; they will continue on the road of self-destruction to the end.

When someone makes the decision to stop drinking, it is usually after many failed attempts to modify their consumption of alcohol, and also their behaviour. They are at a point where they accept that they need help, because they have a problem that is too big to handle on their own.

This is a critical moment, because they will have thought about this a lot, but not made the final decision to actually act on it. Their self-esteem will have hit rock-bottom. They will already have accepted the severity of their drinking problem and acknowledged to themselves that they need to take positive action, because they cannot continue suffering the way they have been.

The reason that this is a critical moment, is because, if they are unsuccessful in getting the help they need when they seek it, their enthusiasm will wane and they will jump back on the alcohol merry-go-round, and may never try to get off it again for months, years or never. The availability of addiction services where someone lives, can determine the final outcome.

 

A normal person will person will say “I am going to go to the pub tonight to get drunk”.

An alcoholic will say “I am going to the pub tonight, but I am not going to get drunk”.

It was a rainy night
When he came into sight
Standing by the road
No umbrella, no coat

So I pulled up along side
And I offered him a ride
He accepted with a smile
So we drove for a while

I didn’t ask him his name
This lonely boy in the rain
Fate, tell me it’s right, is this love at first sight?
Please don’t make it wrong, just stay for the night

All I wanna do is make love to you
Say you will, you want me too
All I wanna do is make love to you
I’ve got lovin’ arms to hold on to

So we found this hotel
It was a place I knew well
We made magic that night
Oh, he did everything right

He brought the woman out of me
So many times, easily
And in the mornin’ when he woke
All I left him was a note

I told him I am the flower, you are the seed
We walked in the garden, we planted a tree
Don’t try to find me, please don’t you dare
Just live in my memory, you’ll always be there

All I wanna do is make love to you
One night of love was all we knew
All wanna do is make love to you
I’ve got lovin’ arms to hold on to, oh

Ooh, we made love
Love like strangers
All night long
We made love

Then it happened one day
We came ’round the same way
You can imagine his surprise
When he saw his own eyes

I said, “Please, please understand
I’m in love with another man
And what he couldn’t give me, oh-oh
Was the one little thing that you can”

All I wanna do is make love to you
One night of love was all we knew
All I want to do is make love to you
C’mon, say you will, you want me, too

All I wanna do is make love to you
One night of love was all we knew
All I wanna do is make love to you
Say you will, baby, want me too

All night long (all I wanna do is make love to you)
All night long (all I wanna do)
All night long (all I wanna do is make love to you)
All night long (all I wanna do)

All I wanna do (is make love to you)
All I wanna do
All I wanna do
All I wanna do
All I wanna do is make love to you
One night of love was all we knew, yeah (all I wanna do)
(All I wanna do is make love to you)
All night long (all I wanna do)
All night long

 

An alcoholic said to a heroin addict, “there is no difference between us, we are just the same”, the heroin addict looked puzzled at this remark. The alcoholic then said, “we are both killing ourselves, you are just doing it quicker than me.”

Alcoholism is known as slow suicide, because the continual abuse that the body suffers, takes its toll eventually. The desire to live is lacking in an alcoholic for various reasons, but one thing is certain, the alcoholic is hurting deeply inside. When they are having fun, being the life and soul of the party, it is a mask for the observers and it also masking reality for the alcoholic. Escaping reality is escaping the disturbance inside the mind.

The alcoholic can easily get on the fast track, and pass the heroin addict by accelerating the self-destruction process. Drink driving or even dangerous driving when sober are quite common. Committing acts that involve danger can hasten the departure from this world. Sometimes this behaviour is performed at a conscious level, but usually it is happening at a subconscious level, because the alcoholic has lost control.

 

People often look for reasons, causes and justifications when questioning if they may have a “drink problem”. When you look at it in a simplistic way and pose the question, “has drink ever caused you any problems?”. If yes is the answer, then there is a good chance they may have an alcohol problem. Being honest with the answer to that question, is very often not as simple as it seems. It is not until after the cessation of alcohol, that some people recognise the extent of the problems that they have experienced due to alcohol.

Even after people become aware that they have an alcohol misuse problem, they look for reasons to continue drinking, instead of looking for reasons to stop. Like any other addictive substance, the person using it finds it difficult to imagine a life without it. If your friends are heavy, or problematic drinkers, then you might be too, because we are generally similar to our friends in various ways.

You may have been alright with drinking a large amount in the past, but as we get older the ability to recover from a night on the booze gets harder. When a liver is damaged due to alcohol, it can regenerate if given sufficient time, but with persistent drinking, regeneration is severely impaired.

Like other organs in the human body, it is the “luck of the draw” of what we get at birth. Someone can be a heavy drinker over a long period and have a relatively unscathed liver, and someone who is a moderate drinker can get liver damage. There is a myth about some drinks being more harmful than others, very often using the comparison between beer and spirits. To the liver, alcohol is alcohol, no matter what form you take it in. If you drink to excess, then the liver has to work a lot harder to cope.

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