“YOUNG PALESTINIANS do not go out to murder
Jews because they are Jews, but because we are
Their occupiers, their torturers, their jailers, the
Thieves of their land and water, their exilers, the
Demolishers of their homes,
The blockers
Of their horizon.

Young Palestinians,
Vengeful and desperate,
Are willing to lose their
Lives and cause their
Lives and cause their
Families great pain
Because the enemy
They face proves every
Day that its malice
Has no limits.”

Amira Hass

 

 

Gay? So what?

Today, I read on Twitter about someone who shouted “disgusting” at a gay male couple, who were walking along holding hands. I believe it was in an area in London that gay people often frequent. I read it with an equal measure of amusement and annoyance, because with the advancement of time, there has been an acceptance that we are not all the same. As we progress, we learn and understand human behaviour better than we used to, and we have a greater tolerance towards minorities as we evolve and develop within society.

Same humans, different biology.

A lack of acceptance in this day and age, when we have become more enlightened in matters of sexual orientation, is like living in the past. When people cite religion as reason to condemn anyone who is different, my religious tolerance diminishes. I am tolerant of every religion, as long as those religions are based on love, not hate.

We don’t have a choice as to what we are born as.

In the school playground, when a bully targets another child, they will often encourage other children to join in, on the implication that the child is different somehow. In adult society we have “Othering”.

Othering is a phenomenon in which some individuals or groups are defined and labelled as not fitting in within the norms of a social group. It is an effect that influences how people perceive and treat those who are viewed as being part of the in-group versus those who are seen as being part of the out-group.

People who have the playground bullying mentality, are the same type of people who cause the persecution of marginalized groups.

Some people, frown upon same-sex marriages, and I wonder why that is. The purpose of life is to love and be loved. It is only because of love that the world survives. If there was only the destructive influence of hateful oppression, humanity would not be able to continue.

So, coming back to the hand-holding couple, does their behaviour bother me in any way? No. Do hateful people who are spiteful and oppressive towards other people in society bother me? Yes.

Every man and every woman is entitled to whatever happiness they can get in this difficult world, and be who they really are without being persecuted.

No matter what they look like, people who care for others are attractive.

Carers are the beautiful people of the world.

 

 

 

Whether it is a nurse, someone pushing a wheelchair, or someone doing voluntary work to help the less fortunate, caring is an admirable quality to possess.

 

 

 

Introducing a new website by fellow blogger, human rights activist and very dear friend, Huguette Antoun.

 

The website will be about life experiences and include topics about psychology and human behaviour. It will also include poetry and words of inspiration.

 

About the Author: Huguette Antoun

 

 

 

 

“I am a writer and blogger and my content is original, genuine and reflective of real-life experiences, inspiration, motivation and human behavior. I believe that “We are all as unique as our fingerprints along with our thoughts and emotions” and this is what you will find navigating this website. I am a human rights activist and peacebuilder and I have been on a very rich journey defending human rights and improving people’s lives. I speak three languages: Arabic, English and French, but this blog will be mainly in English.”

Click on any image to navigate to the website.

 

Winding your way down on Baker Street
Light in your head and dead on your feet
Well, another crazy day
You’ll drink the night away
And forget about everything

This city desert makes you feel so cold
It’s got so many people, but it’s got no soul
And it’s taken you so long
To find out you were wrong
When you thought it held everything

You used to think that it was so easy
You used to say that it was so easy
But you’re trying, you’re trying now

Another year and then you’d be happy
Just one more year and then you’d be happy
But you’re crying, you’re crying now

Way down the street there’s a light in his place
He opens the door, he’s got that look on his face
And he asks you where you’ve been
You tell him who you’ve seen
And you talk about anything

He’s got this dream about buying some land
He’s gonna give up the booze and the one-night stands
And then he’ll settle down
In some quiet little town
And forget about everything

But you know he’ll always keep moving
You know he’s never gonna stop moving
‘Cause he’s rolling, he’s the rolling stone
And when you wake up, it’s a new morning
The sun is shining, it’s a new morning
And you’re going, you’re going home

A lot of people say that the UK Tory government at Westminster have been incompetent, but they have been very competent at making extremely rich people richer and a lot of other people a lot poorer.

In actual fact they have been very successful in achieving their goal.

The UK is a very rich country, but instead of the government tackling inequality and poverty, they have created it.

The truth is constantly hidden, because most of the mainstream media is owned by billionaires.

Saying that poor people only have themselves to blame is ludicrous and disgusting. Living in poverty is not a conscious choice.

“I feel so guilty that my Mum won’t eat so we can. I’m going to work really hard when I’m older, so I can take my mum for a big meal!”

 

“My teacher gives me extra snacks so that I can take it home. My Mum has no money and
Is usually asleep. So, I usually give them to my little sister. She isn’t old enough to go to school yet, and I have already had some dinner at school.”

 

“If there isn’t enough food, we’ll get it and sometimes mum will go hungry and starve and
stuff.” Bryony, I3, told researchers. “Even if it is not that much food for me and [brother], it’s enough that we’ve actually had something. My tummy is always rumbling but I’m used to it now.”

 

“I envy children that get chocolate and sweets whenever they want. They are so lucky. I can’t wait for my birthday, because that’s when I am allowed to have those kinds of treats. We can’t afford them all year round.”

 

“When I’m hungry I just can’t sleep. It’s really really hard for me to do that, so I just need to relax my mind and know that I will eat in seven hours when I get to school.”

 

Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh

B-B-Be careful making wishes in the dark, dark
Can’t be sure when they’ve hit their mark
And besides in the mean-meantime, I’m just
Dreaming of tearing you apart
I’m in the de-details with the devil
You know, the world can never get me on my level
I just got to get you out the cage, I’m a young lover’s rage
Gonna need a spark to ignite

But my songs know what you did in the dark

So light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
I’m on fire

So light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
I’m on fire
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oohohh
In the dark, dark
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oohohh
In the dark, dark

Well all the writers keep writing what they write
Somewhere another pretty vein just died (Died)
I’ve got the scars from tomorrow and I wish you could see
That you’re the antidote to everything except for me
Through a constellation of tears on your lashes
Burn everything you love then burn the ashes
In the end everything collides, my childhood
Spat back out the monster that you see

My songs know what you did in the dark

So light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
I’m on fire

So light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
I’m on fire
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
In the dark, dark
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
In the dark, dark
(Left left left right left)
(Left left left right left)
(Left left left right left)

My songs know what you did in the dark
(My songs know what you did in the dark)

So light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
I’m on fire

So light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
Light ’em up, up, up
I’m on fire
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
In the dark, dark
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh
In the dark, dark
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, oh-oh-oh-oh

 

I have been requested to add information regarding where to seek help or advice (UK) when someone wishes to address a problem with alcohol misuse.

Speaking to your GP is a good idea, because it is sometimes not safe to suddenly stop drinking alcohol, after a prolonged period of consistent or heavy drinking.

You may prefer to speak to someone else before speaking to your doctor, in which case it would be advisable to have an assessment at local alcohol/drug agency, who will advise you and suggest a plan that will suit you.

It is normal for anyone to have some apprehension or anxiety about beginning a process such as this, when it is something that they have never done previously. Someone I spoke to recently told me he did not want to be involved in a group activity where people shared information.

I suggested that as well as having one-to-one sessions, he would benefit from a group setting as well.

There may be particular thoughts or types of behaviour that an alcoholic has, that they consider is just pertaining to them, but when talking to other people who have been misusing alcohol, they realise that other people have the same problems as they do.

Strength in numbers.

When a group of people with the same problem and the same goal get together, their strength grows, because they form a bond which supports and encourages each other. A lot of people have a tendency to form an inaccurate assessment of  group activity, based on what they have seen on fictional TV programs.

The biggest fear, is fear of the unknown.

There is no one-size-fits-all of course, so having a non-committal chat with someone who will be pleased to help you, will allay any unnecessary anxiety. You can chat to someone using Online Chat or speak on the phone, or contact them by email. You can then plan your journey into recovery, and look forward to changing your life for the better.

 

Help and Advice

At the time of writing, I am in Bournemouth, therefore the first link will be for local services.

BEAT
(Bournemouth Engagement and Assessment Team)

Contact

Drop In

6 Trinity House
161 Old Christchurch Road
Bournemouth
BH1 1JU

The BEAT is a ‘one stop’ shop, offering advice, information and support to anyone affected by drugs and/or alcohol (individuals, families, friends, carers and concerned others)


Drinkchat

Free online chat service for anyone who is looking for information or advice about their own, or someone else’s, drinking. Our trained advisors are on hand to give you confidential advice.

Drinkchat is available from 9am-2pm on weekdays.

Chat with an advisor


We Are With You (formerly Addaction)

UK-wide treatment agency, helping individuals, families and communities to manage the effects of drug and alcohol misuse. If you are over 50 and have concerns about your drinking, you can also call the helpline.

Helpline: 0808 801 0750


Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) Great Britain

AA supports the recovery and continued sobriety of individuals. Meetings are available online and in person.

 Helpline: 0800 917 7650

 Email helpline: help@aamail.org

 


If you do what you always did, you’ll get what you always got.

 

 

 

 

Arnesa Buljušmić-Kustura

 

 

Genocide researcher, expert, & lecturer | Communications Director | Social Critic | Writer | Author of “Letters from Diaspora” | Child of war and genocide.


 

My daughter got a platinum jubilee book about the Queen, she also got a nice mug with the Queen’s face on it. The book was sent to all kids in the UK and it cost 12 million pounds to do that. Some of her classmates only get to eat during the free school lunch they get.

Some of her classmates share their bedroom with 3 other kids, their 2-bedroom apartment with parents, grandparents, siblings too and sometimes a cousin or two. Because they cannot afford to not share a home with that many people.

Some of her classmates couldn’t go on an upcoming school trip so we covered their fees. Some of her classmates come to school in worn out uniforms because their parents cannot afford to buy them new ones. Some of her classmates’ parents work multiple jobs to survive.

But hey…the 12-million-pounds book was a special memory they’ll never forget…while they barely survive.

I also have to say…it doesn’t come easy to me either as we are struggling to pay for our extortionate visa fees in order to stay in the country, while we struggle with the rising cost of living, and as we continue to pay double tax, double NHS surcharges. But hey…nice book!

Jock’s got a vote in Parochia
Ten long years and he’s still got her
Paying tax and and doing stir
Worry about it later.
And the wind blows hot and the wind blows cold
But it blows us good so we’ve been told
Music’s food ’til the art-biz folds
Let them all eat culture.

Chorus:
The past is steeped in shame,
But tomorrow’s fair game,
For a life that’s fit for living
Good morning Britain.

Twenty years and a loaded gun
Funerals, fear and the war ain’t won
Paddy’s just a figure of fun
It lightens up the danger.
And a corporal sneers at a catholic boy
And he eyes his gun like a rich man’s toy
He’s killing more than Celtic joy
Death is not a stranger.

Taffy’s time’s gonna come one day
It’s a loud sweet voice and it won’t give way
A house is not a holiday
Your sons are leaving home Neil.
In the hills and the valleys and far away
You can hear the song of democracy
The echo of eternity
With a Rak-a-Rak-a feel.

Chorus

From the Tyne to where to the Thames does flow
My English brothers and sisters know
It’s not a case of where you go
It’s race and creed and colour.
From the police cell to the deep dark grave
On the underground’s just a stop away

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